Thursday Seeds
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Thursday Seeds | Put something on
The three important things to do first thing in the morning according to a favorite mentor is: Suit up, shut up, and show up. And I got two out of three, for this post should have gone out yesterday for Thursday. The dog ate my homework, there was a school shooting, and someone got cancer or Covid. (not me.) And while all of those are true, what is also true is that I learned that hummingbirds travel in a group called a charm and they are all over the backyard getting ready for their journey. They don’t wear coats, they go where it’s warm. I also know that the hooded…
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Thursday Seeds | Get Naked
Be careful who you share your details with. They might be listening. Same with ideas, especially if it’s a product idea or an idea that could change a business. Those should be share after the requirement of money, not just given away for free. Do you value your body? Do you value your ideas? Cover them and share them only with those that are trusted. There is the public self and the private self. Bad things happen when the private self gets so public that assumptions can be made. Misunderstandings create the drama, not the good drama, but the bad. And so when someone says, “I see what you are…
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Thursday Seeds | Don’t Say It, Yell it!
This is a post for those of us that rarely ask for what we need. It feels uncomfortable and awkward to say the least. It feels like whining and weakness. And so, we just suffer through. And our kids watch us, the nephew and niece that look up to us do it too. They catch on that this might even be a sign of strength. We can play hurt and we can take a hit. We can sit down and be miserable and turn that energy into a true strength that others would see as genuine. And most times, it actually is. But there are times when that can become…
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Thursday Seeds | Forced Readings
Required reading for a class Forced reading – Reading assignments for every night as a kid taking all the joy out of it. Required reading for a job Required reading for instructions on how to … The resistance that shows up. If you fight, I’ll fight back. If you trick me, I’ll still evade Forcing yourself to sit on the couch and you can’t get up until the book is done. Why? The book won’t be in your possession to read later. It’s not at the library. You get it now or never. [that’s a song, oldie but goodie] Doing it while excited about something else. Doing it after doing…
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Thursday Seeds | Time Capsules
I love my cats. These Kat Kats get impatient if I don’t make the motions of getting their goodies. And they have me trained too. I can either get to the door where the food is, or I can get to the door where the food is faster. Otherwise they are on me. The “don’t forget” neon sign is on them pretty quickly and I am herded to the right place in the house: the kitchen. The animals that know when you need them. Here’s to them. You are sad or feeling anxiety? My cats pick up on it and come immediately unless their face is in the food bowl.…
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Thursday Seeds | lay down the letters
“It’s all in how you lay down the letters.” You are playing board games with your date. It’s winter, the fire is on, coffee is on the table with this scrabble board. He is a fanatic about board games and impressed that you own a board from all the way back to the 90’s. You have how many words down on the board unchallenged? He has just as many. The game is getting cutthroat. He places this word on the board: QUEAN You look at him with hesitancy… Did he mean to? He nods his head slowly. “You want to have me look it up for you? It’ll cost you…
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Thursday Seeds | Clear the Board
Things that should be done nightly: Clear your desk and clear your computer desktop. Why? It keeps you more secure, no prying eyes on what you are working on until you are ready to discuss, divulge, collaborate, or mandate. It keeps assumptions down for the passers by who think they saw something but saw it wrong. This way you control your narrative: when it is looked upon, what the context is leading in, and how it would be perceived. Personal items in a negotiation situation can later be used as leverage. Think of the episode in Suits where the painting that makes the High character think of his mother and…
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Thursday Seeds | Monkey Mind
I should do this. In the middle of doing this, I need to do that! What’s the laundry look like? Did that kid of mine lock the door? Is the coffee pot on? [insert other appliance that can take you down this road] You know this road? It’s the road that keeps you from what you most need to do: CALM DOWN! Not one person can tell you to calm down and you do it. It almost never works unless you’ve done the work. Did you forget that person’s name that you are about to introduce? Worse, did you say their name wrong? “Where’s Jeff?” “Oh you mean Jim?” Oops.…
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Thursday Seeds | Feelings are Feelings
Do you know that feeling of someone that wants exclusive time with you? It’s nice. Do you know that feeling of some folks that want to exclude you from their time? Not nice. Maybe they included you before but don’t want to anymore. It begs the question why. Why would they exclude you? You did something they didn’t like. You were too loud, too sharing, too closed off, too pretty, too ugly, too petty, too not them… What’s your reaction to that? A feeling. There are opinions as to whether you were those things. There are opinions that it’s not even about you at all. …until it is. What are…
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Thursday Seeds| Plants are people too!
Plants can be as good at being friends as any person. They love it when you talk and they don’t talk back. Sure there is science behind that. O2 versus CO2 and who needs what and who expels what. In the 70’s, it was “talk” to your plants to make them grow. But now most folks are aware of the science behind it. I’m betting that this is pretty important stuff when you are in the orbit of our plant on the international space station. And now, most sustainable gardens are known too. Guess why. They don’t stop talking about them! Ha! You must be a plant! Here’s the trick,…
